Rainbow Guru: What am I missing?

Hi Rainbow Guru,
My only son just told me he’s gay. He told me that he likes men just like other men like women. I’m very confused. Is this some new ‘cool’ thing with young people these days? Even Ekta Kapoor made some show about two boys. I’ve never known any gay people in my life, and now all these movies and shows are showing the same genders to be in love. What am I missing?
— A Confused Mother

Hi Confused Mother,
Well, first, take a deep breath...(Good advice when confronting any difficult situation, right?). Tell yourself you will get through this. And you will. As a matter of fact, you might someday look back and find that you are grateful for the experience of having a gay child. Hear him out and try to look beyond the preconceived notions you might have. You could always read up on ways to broach the subject, and you will even find parents of gay children who will help you see your son as he really is. If you are trying to learn more about homosexuality on the internet, just be a little careful about the search words you enter. There is a Facebook group called Yaariyaan where you can post your questions and meet other parents of homosexual children.

Being gay isn’t the new fad. It has always existed, but perhaps you never noticed because it didn’t affect you directly. If you are supportive (although difficult) and pave the way for a meaningful discussion on the matter, your son might just open up and discuss his journey with you. You’re not alone in the world.

(Rainbow Guru is your guide, counsellor and agony aunt through the waters of sexuality)

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