Small things that make all the difference
What you need to know:
MAN TALK. What things matter in a relationship that most people tend to ignore or even only appreciate when it is too late?
Eugene Mugisha
Speed. The easier she is to get, the easier she will be got by others. I mean, seriously, how can a girl accept to date a total stranger withing two weeks of getting to meet him? If she says yes too fast, run, my brother, run for your life.
The good life: we all love the good life. But a girl who does not seem to realise that the good life comes at a cost, and is inconsiderate to what you are going through to keep her up there is a bad one. She is like a monkey, swinging from branch to branch looking for that one with the ripest fruit.
Lastly, the girl who cannot keep her mouth shut: my goodness! Within a few days of meeting her she is telling you everything about her family, her friends, your friends... Friend, you just invited the media into your life.
Ivan Okuda
That it’s always important to take the book home after reading the preface, previews and book reviews. That however eye catching the book cover is, it’s not enough to fall for it before you have an idea of its high and low points.
Bottomline is the world is so fast paced that we don’t invest as much time and resource to understand those we intend to enter into relationships with; like books, we fall for the skin and flesh, failing to walk the path a little and see the skin deep stuff.
That is when things start to fall asunder months into the relationship. You cannot experiment on matters of the heart, period!
Benjie
Adaptability and respect. These are things that should be easy to notice and yet if you miss them because you are distracted,
They will grow into much bigger problems. A guy who is unwilling to meet you half way, one for whom it is always my way or no way, a guy that cannot adjust to new people or environments and wants you to close your world for him - is bad for you. If you see these signs, do not hang around long enough. Same goes for respect. You can catch this in the way they speak about or treat others, the lesser people or the ones that they disagree with.
Intolerant and abusive men or women for that matter, who have no sense of occasion or control over their emotions must be avoided at all cost.
The guys
Ivan Okuda: 21, at University.
Eugene Mugisha: 29, the dating guru.
Benjie: 28, dating
